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    I hope you feel at home here as we dare to find more hope together, learn about holistic living, and find gratitude for this life we've been given. This is a safe place where we can ask questions, be honest, laugh, smile and even cry together.

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Over the last 6 weeks I’ve gone on a journey… one I didn’t know I was going to embark on. At the beginning of the year I reached a point and was ready to do something to become strong again. I signed up for a 6 week challenge at the local Barre Studio. It was a competition which I bought into just for the accountability. Other than some hikes and walking routinely I haven’t worked out since we started IVF 3 years ago. Last Winter I had signed up for Barre and broke my toe 2 weeks into it and I had to quit…. which led me into deeper despair about ever finding strength again. But, here I was a whole year later ready, at my breaking point and ready to finally DO something for myself.

What I didn’t expect through the last 6 weeks was all the emotions… the tears, the breakthroughs were taking my by surprise. Never before had I experienced such deep emotions while working out. I attempted to make 5-6 classes a week and every day I showed up I felt my soul strengthen along with my body. In the walls of the small studio, I began finding my strength again, but the tears would well up unexpectedly as I held a pose longer than I thought I could or when the burning sensation of “embracing the shake” would happen. Why was I getting so emotional? I began soul searching and working through the emotions, which culminated last night when I did my measurements for the finale of the 6 week challenge.

6.5 inches in 6 weeks brought me to tears in front of new friends. There in the studio I couldn’t hold back the wave of emotions….the tears welling up inside came forth. It wasn’t just that I was proud of myself for inches lost, it was I felt a piece of me was alive again, that I found a part of myself I had lost that I never believed I’d get back.

After 6 years of infertility we were BLESSED with our miracle twins, Brooklyn and Eliana. But let me tell you, it wasn’t easy on my body going through: 4 failed IUI’s, IVF, failed first transfer, Ovarian Hyperstimulation horrible twin pregnancy with lots of complications (kidney stones, emergency surgery,Pre-eclampsia, Emergency C-Section, Postpartum eclampsia, and Diastasis Recti.)

Over the years my body was stabbed and prodded with more needles than I can count and put up with invasive equipment, I felt more like a science project than a human being at times. 

Don’t get me wrong, I would do it all over in a heartbeat and I was incredibly thankful for the gift of a miraculous pregnancy. I did feel strong carrying twins, but I felt at the end of it all, tired, weak and lost. Because I had to go through SO much to get these sweet babies… so many shots, blood sweat and tears to bring them into this world healthy, that by the time their first year rolled around I was exhausted.

I will never forget the moment I arrived home with the twins.

I hopped out of the shower for the first time since giving birth and glanced at myself in the mirror and began to cry. Who was I looking at and where was I? I was unrecognizable. A lot of it had to do with the incredible swelling I had endured because of post eclampsia, the muscle atrophy from 9 months incubating twins on a couch, but also the sagging skin of twins stretching my short torso was finally visible. Was I proud of my body for carrying these precious twins, you bet! But it didn’t mean that a part of myself was given away in the process. Like all moms feel, you sacrifice yourself to bring life into the world… and its the most precious honor to do so.

As moms, we throw ourselves whole-heartedly into keeping tiny humans alive, and managing a household that we place ourselves on the back burner trying not to drown from sleep deprivation that we’re too tired to think about how to take care of us. Then throw in any physical complications (like for me c-section and diastasis recti) which seemed so overwhelming, it can feel like we’re sinking before we even start.


Starting is the whole battle. The tears last night weren’t over the inches, it was over the strength and accomplishment of finding myself again. Finding my strength.  I stuck to a commitment, to carve an hour for myself 5-6x a week to work on healing my core, strengthening my body, and giving my brain mental space to breathe again. And in the silence of the studio I told myself repeatedly I was strong, I could do it, and in those hours I put in those 4 walls, I found a deeper perseverance, a physical strength, and healing.

The last 6 weeks became a releasing of the pain and beating my body had taken through all the years of infertility…. I was letting go of the trauma of my infertility past and finding my strength as a new woman, mom and wife.

C-Section Day! 

My Twins // Brooklyn + Eliana 


To answer a few of your questions:

What is Barre:

Barre is a combination of Ballet positions with yoga and Pilates influence. Barre focuses on isometric exercise.

Why Barre was the best option for Me:

Why I let so much time pass before finally beginning to work out was fear! I have Diastisis Recti (a separation of the abdominal muscles) and I knew certain moves could make my condition worse, plus my muscles were so weak that everything intimidated me. I looked at a few options, yet I was scared. I didn’t want to ruin my body further and I didn’t want to feel more weak that I already did.

Barre was the best decision because it is isolated movements that forced me to think about which muscles to engage. For the last few years, since I lost my core strength I learned to use all the wrong muscles. Barre had the pace for me to make the modifications I needed while still working on strengthening my muscles.

The teachers were so great about helping out and giving me modifications when I couldn’t do certain moves. I always felt I could do something when at times I physically couldn’t.

I have never shared any of my IVF video’s publicly. At the time it was a very raw and private journey and I couldn’t emotionally handle the pressure of sharing. But, in hindsight, I am VERY proud of my IVF journey and want to encourage other woman if they are in their journey of infertility that is a beautiful, messy, and crazy ride!

Here is short clip of one of my first IVF injection nights in September 2014.

It’s common for me to hear, “I want to try essential oils but I don’t know if I am ready for the commitment and investment of a kit”…. and I totally GET it! Starting off with a starter kit is the best value, but is also an investment into your health. For those, and you may be one, who hasn’t fully experienced the amazing benefits of essential oils, you may be apprehensive. And I want you to hear, that is ok. We all start somewhere, and it looks different for every family. Sometimes starting small and learning and experiencing oils at your own pace is right for you. Everyone’s needs and budgets are different, and there is a place for you. I previously have shared on the blog 16 oils for $16. But I wanted to spend today and expand on the list and ideas to creatively get oils in your home.

Did you know you can experience and get started with essential oils without breaking the bank?

Let me break down a few myths:

  • Myth One: To start ordering oils I have to get started with a Kit.
    • TRUTH: You can start ordering oils for only $35! You open your account membership (which is just like Costco or Amazon) Once you have your membership you have access to oils at a discount. The $35 is only paid your first year. *to renew yearly it is $25. but includes a free Peppermint!
      • Your membership includes: 25% off retail, Training + Education, A fun community, a welcome gift with goodies from me, and the option to earn points and free oils.
  • Myth Two: I have to sell oils to become a member
    • TRUTH: You can simply be a happy customer/oil user no strings attached. 🙂
  • Myth Three: I have to be locked into monthly orders.
    • TRUTH: You can order when you want and how you like. No monthly minimums.
  • Myth Three: High quality Essential oils are expensive.
    • TRUTH: Below I have a list of 25 oils under $19!
  1. Lemon – $10
  2. Wild Orange – $10.
  3. Lemongrass $10
  4. Terrashield -$10.50
  5. Melaleuca Touch – $12.50
  6. Lime – $13
  7. Breathe Touch – $13
  8. Cedarwood – $13
  9. Forgive Touch – $13
  10. Peppermint Touch – $13.50
  11. Lavender Touch – $13.75
  12. Rosemary $14
  13. Eucalyptus – $14
  14. Clove – $14
  15. Fennel – $15
  16. Tangerine $15
  17. Citrus Bliss – $15
  18. Motivate Touch – $15
  19. Cypress – $15.50
  20. Oregano Touch – $ 15.75
  21. Grapefruit – $16
  22. Cheer Touch –  $16.25
  23. Purify – $18.
  24. Peace Touch – $18.25
  25. Past Tense -$18.50

You may be thinking? How do I know what to buy or where to start without the guidance of a kit?
I put some some ideas together to guide you:

  1. First open your account for only $35. When you open your account you will receive in the mail a beautiful book filled with all the essential oils and how to use them.
  2. Next write down your top 3 health priorities
  3. Decide how serious you are about reaching those goals and then set your monthly budget.
    • How much do I want to spend a month on becoming healthier and achieving these goals?
  4. Then decide what oils will help meet those needs.
  5. Once you’ve got that done, every month place your order, slowly growing your natural medicine cabinet.

Still looking for ideas? Try these Combos for under $50.

  • If Immunity is your goal try these: Lemon, Oregano Touch, Melaleuca Touch. – $38.25
    • I also HIGHLY Recommend On Guard for Immunity Support!
  • Respiratory Support: Breath Touch, Cedarwood, Eucalyptus – $40.
  • If Supporting your Kids health is your goals try these: Lavender Touch, Melaleuca Touch, and Wild Orange – $36.25
  • Mood Support: Citrus Bliss, Forgive touch, Cheer Touch – $44.25
  • Sleep Support: Cedarwood, Lavender Touch, Breath Touch – $39.75
  • Muscle/ Tension Support: Cypress, Lemongrass, Past Tense – $43.75
  • Oils for Cleaning: Lemon, Purify – $28.

If you have questions or want to order essential oils email me:

Click here to open your personal doTERRA Oil Account here. 

* Prices reflect wholesale pricing on 15 ML bottles and 10 ML Touch Rollerballs

What would it feel like to have simple, natural solutions in your home to help you tackle your health, emotional, and wellness needs and goals? 2018 is your year to start off embracing natural solutions! Last January I opened up my wholesale membership with the Home Essentials Kit and received all the FREE  oils and benefits…. I can honestly tell you it was one of the best decisions I ever made for myself and our home. Every single month I get the honor of helping others find the benefits and hope these oils bring.

“My husband is a majorly light sleeper! He takes the serenity softgels and sleeps so well now days. We also diffuse lavender with a couple other oils at night. Helps the whole family!! “

People, who were once discouraged and had given up on every finding help, are finding hope again because they can now fall asleep after years of sleep issues, are finding freedom from the darkness of depression and anxiety, making it through the winter season with strong immunity, finding relief from lifetime back and muscle issues, and many are using oils to support their body’s unique issues with essential oils and have the freedom of experiencing NO side effects…. and SO much more!

“My daughter is 3 and in daycare. We use On guard morning and night to keep away as many colds as possible. She has missed considerably less daycare this cold season.”

“Balance (oil) really saved my emotional health. I couldn’t believe how big of a difference I felt.”

If you get started in the next 15 days with the Home Essentials Kit, which includes the Top 10 Essential Oils every Family needs + a Diffuser ($275) You’ll receive:

  • Free 15ml Frankincense ($93 value)
  • $100 in Free Oils to Spend… imagine all the possibilities! (with qualifying monthly order)
  • A fun welcome gift from me (email me to find out all the goodies you’ll receive)
  • Wholesale membership to get 25% off retail anytime you want to order (NO min. orders or pressure to sell)
  • Access into my private Facebook Community for more education and training
  • ME! You get me as your essential oil trainer and coach 🙂

What a value! Yes, you really get ALL that for free when you order your Home Essentials Kit by Jan. 15th.

Are you ready to say Yes and Invest in your Health and Start on the best journey of your life? I would be honored to help you in your journey and coach you along the way! 

Click here to Enroll Today!   * email me first to receive your special code to enter

Holidays can be really hard on kiddos because it changes up their routines, they tend to eat a little more sugar and foods they aren’t used to, the days get packed with busy schedules, naps fall by the way side, lots of interaction with more family and friends, and simply the hustle and bustle of the most wonderful time of the year… and without warning it can become the worst time of the year because your sweet babes become overtired and overstimulated from all the Holiday fun.

How do I know this? Well let’s say this mama of twins has experienced all the Holiday “fun” first hand. As we enter the countdown till Christmas (7 days but whose counting?!) I’ve pre-made my rollerball blends, making sure to stay diligent with routines and oils in the midst of the excitement of parties, lights, Santa, presents, family, and all that comes with the season.

I wanted to share my personal family tips and sanity savers with you today in hopes to support your family and kids through a fun, yet crazy time of the year.

I hope this is helpful for you.

Merry Christmas!


So why Essential Oils?

Essential oils are powerful, volatile, aromatic compounds that are natural, safe and effective. They have the ability to support emotions and health for the entire family. Having these oils in our home is our family’s tool kit to support us physically and emotionally during all seasons but especially seasons like this! I truly cannot imagine life without these amazing oils.

How to use them with your kiddos:

  1. Aromatically – inhaling or diffusing
  2. Topically – Applying oils to the skin


During the Christmas time sweets are hard to avoid altogether. I am pretty strict about sugar with my twins, but during the Holidays they get to experience a few fun treats. The problem with sugar is it can suppress the body’s immune system.To help support your kids health and immunity during Christmas, use an immunity rollerball 2-3x a day down their spine and on their feet. The girls get their immunity oils every morning when they wake and before bed all throughout the year. During this time of the year though, they get oils applied at nap-time too.

Little tummies can get upset with the change in eating schedules, new foods, extra sweets, and lack of sleep. To support their little bellies we use a Tummy Tamer rollerball (with DigestZen and Wild Orange oils). We apply clockwise on their bellies every evening or when they ask for it. If they have upset tummies the girls are so good about asking us for the “Tummy Oils.” 

With busier days, later nights, and the anticipation for Christmas it can be hard for little ones to wind down and fall to sleep…and we all know Mama NEEDS her break, so sleep is a must in this household 🙂 A good diffuser blend for the Holidays that we run in the girls room is, Lavender + Siberian Fir. I love Lavender for it’s calming benefits and I love adding Siberian Fir because it helps soothes anxious feelings, and has a relaxing aroma, it supports healthy respiratory function which is definitely needed this time of the year. The best part is, it smells like Christmas!

To help support your kid before, during, or even after a meltdown happens, this next rollerball blend is a great one to carry with you. We rub down the spine, base of the neck, and feet if needed. Balance, Vetiver, and Lavender are great calming and grounding oils to help your kiddos adjust through the Holidays. Lack of sleep and changing schedules is the #1 reason my kids meltdown fast. One of our babes specifically struggles with overstimulation which amplifies anxiousness and makes transitions difficult. These oils (and also the Peace Rollerball) are blends we use to help her throughout the day. Peace promotes feelings of composure, and reassurance when anxious feelings overwhelm. A good time to apply these oils is mornings, before transitions, or when needed. 🙂

I don’t know about you but my kids can sometimes get cranky as we readjust to our schedules, come off sugar, and come back to our healthy food routines. This is a fun oil blend to help those kids who are extra cranky, pouty, and whiney after Christmas. Use this on their feet and spine as needed. Another fun oil to try is the Cheer rollerball. Apply to the bottoms of the feet of a child who needs a boost of positivity and cheerfulness. (Mama’s can also use this on their wrists and neck if you need a boost too) 🙂

BONUS TIP: For the Mama’s! 

After the Holidays are all over, use this diffuser blend in your home. 

Don’t have essential oils yet in your home? You can get started today! When you join get access to: 25% of retail pricing, continuing education, welcome gift from me, essential oil resources and access to an oil community…. plus SO much more! I’d love to help you get started on your oil journey. To find some of my favorite starter kits head here. Ready to get started? Head here, fill out your info and select your kit! As soon as you sign up I will be in contact to get you access to our Oil Community online.

Want to get access to *FREE* weekly Essential Oil tips for your family? Click here to sign up.

Mud Mask 

Rose Lotion

Intro Trio

Cheer Rollerball

On Guard hand Spray

Body Wash

Citrus Bliss Hand Lotion

Peppermint & On Guard Beadlets

Slim and Sassy Gum

Deep Blue Lotion

Breathe Vapor Stick

Body Scrub

Serenity Bath Bars

Facial Scrub

Motivate Rollerball


Don’t have your own doTERRA wholesale membership yet? Follow these steps to get your yearly membership and 25% off retail pricing.

  1. Click here and head to my site.  * If asked when checking out, your referral # is 4046390
  2. Click Join and Save
  3. Click Join DoTERRA at the bottom
  4. Select Wholesale Customer

Select your starter kit or to purchase individual items, select Essential Booklet then type individual items  (like wooden box or whale diffuser) in the search bar.

Questions, email Katie //